6 Things They Don’t Tell You About Living on Your Own

I can’t believe that over a month ago, I moved out of my parents’ house for good and moved into my own place. Sure, I go back home a lot (almost every weekend), but as my sister so kindly put it, I’m now considered a guest whenever I visit. I have now my own place to call home.

Living on your own is not easy. Click through to find out what I wish people had told me before I made the big move!

I have to admit that living on my own is not exactly the way I thought it would be. No matter how many posts you read on the subject or how many people you ask for advice, everyone’s experience is a little bit different. I love the liberty and independence living by myself has given me, but I’m also now just realizing how much I appreciate everything my parents have done and are still doing for me. Everyone has been trying to tell me to expect this and that, but there are a few things no one told me that I would have liked to know before I went out and moved to my own place. 

Adulting is HARD.

Okay, I know you’ve probably heard this one a lot. But trust me, it’s 100% true! Every time I read this online, I couldn’t help but roll my eyes. I thought, “I’m sure it cannot be THAT hard…”. But I’m telling you: it can and it will! I mean, you have to pay the bills, remember to pay your rent, go grocery shopping, clean up, cook, do laundry… I looked at the adults around me and it all seemed fairly easy. But the thing no one is telling you is that your parents are good at this because they have been doing it for years. They know what to expect because they’ve been through this. And you want to know the best part? Adults still make mistakes. You will make mistakes, but it’s only part of the learning process! Adulting is hard, but it’s not impossible. You’ll get better with time, and things will come more easily. It’s okay to be figuring out along the way.

Cleaning up sucks, but it’s necessary.

I’ve always hated cleaning up. I know it seems a little bit paradoxical since I’m an organized person, but my room is always such a mess. I love the feeling of a clean room, but I just hate the actual act of cleaning up. Weird, right? But one thing that I’ve learned while living on my own is that while cleaning up is a whole lot worse than I thought it was (I mean, I actually need to clean the shower? ugh), it’s necessary. And if I don’t do it, no one is going to do it for me. So that means I’ll be living in my own filth if I don’t do anything (ew). Sometimes I think I can let it slide a little bit, but then I realize that is just so much more disgusting. (Important lesson: Clean up your dishes at least once a day. Otherwise, you’ll have to scrub a lot.) I used to think that I didn’t mind not cleaning up all the time, but that’s because I had someone else do it for me (read: my mom). Now, I try to do a little bit every single day.

You have to be your own best friend.

When you live alone, there aren’t that many opportunities to socialize. I actually have two roommates, but I literally never see them because we live on such different schedules. So whenever I come home, I’m on my own. I’ve always considered myself to be a lonesome person who doesn’t need to be surrounded by people all the time (spoiler alert: I’m an introvert), but I’m realizing that while this may be true, living on your own can get quite lonely. You need to be able to entertain yourself. But to be able to do that, you have to actually enjoy spending time with yourself. Because no one else is there to distract you from your thoughts. You’re stuck with yourself.

Boredom is your worst enemy.

As I was saying, you will be spending a lot of time on your own. And I discovered that while I love being on my own, I get bored quite easily. And you know what I like to do when I’m bored. I eat. A lot. And that’s not healthy. I also drive myself insane. I feel locked up, like I’m stuck in a cage. There’s only so much Netflix you can watch. You have to find other ways to entertain yourself. Find a new hobby, sit down with a good book, work on your blog… There are so many possibilities! If you’re bored, that’s when you get homesick. You can’t always be locked up in your room, sometimes you have to get out and socialize for your own sanity. So go out and have fun!

Cooking for one is not easy.

I always thought cooking for one would be the easiest thing in the world. WRONG. Cooking for one is much harder (and complicated) than what it looks like. First, you have to think that grocery shopping can be a nightmare. Are you going to be able to eat all of that before it expires? Sometimes, yes. But most of the time, buying the regular size or family size version of something is simply not worth it. Living with roommates, I don’t have that much storing space in the fridge and the freezer, so I have to think about what I buy carefully.

Then comes the actual cooking. Most of the time, I just don’t have the motivation to cook. I mean, after 8 hours of work, the only thing I feel like doing is crashing on my bed in front of Netflix (which I do a lot more often than I’d like to admit…). And since buying big portions is a no-no, cooking just doesn’t seem worth the time and effort. So I’ll end up heating up things in the microwave or eating some toast with peanut butter a lot. If you guys have any recommendations or recipes or anything that can help me out on that front, that would be absolutely great! (Make sure it’s fast and easy because I’m no chef.)

The trash will not take itself out.

I’m going to be honest: I’m used to having someone do this type of things for me. And I’ve taken it for granted. I’ve said it before, but I appreciate everything my parents have done and still do for me a lot more. I might not say thanks all the time, but I do think it. Since I’ve been living on my own, I’ve realized that I had to start doing all the little things that my parents have been doing for me over the years. The trash is not going to take itself out. The dishes are not going to clean themselves up. I need to start taking my responsibilities into my own hands and be an adult (UGH, I know).

Overall, living on my own has been an incredible experience so far and it has made me learn so much about myself. I do not regret it for one bit, and I’m sure it’s going to prepare me well for what’s next to come.

What are the things you wish you had known when you started living on your own?

 

 

  • All of these are so true! I wrote a post on the same thing a while back, and I think I included all of the things you did. I moved into an apartment by myself in September of 2015, and I don’t move out until December. Absolutely hate cooking and cleaning, and it is just way too easy to become a hermit because making plans takes effort now haha. That said, I’m so grateful to have a place that’s all my own because I need my space!

  • haha all are so true! I hate adulting and I’m in my late 20’s. And boredom is the worst! I have the same issues as you lol. hope we improve as we go ♥

    • Let’s hope it’ll get better! 🙂

  • I do similar things for meals! I eat peanut butter on toast, microwaved mac n cheese and cereal for dinner more than I care to admit…Sometimes it’s helpful for me to make food on the weekends and save it in the fridge for the week to heat up! Like, I’ll make a few pieces of chicken instead of one so I have some to put in salads or wraps during the week!
    paige / eyeliner wings & pretty things

    • Oooh, that’s such a good idea, Paige! I’ll definitely try that!

  • “boredom is your worst enemy” is the truest statement I’ve heard about adulting so far!

  • I don’t live alone, but my roommate almost always goes home on the weekend, so I’m left alone for about 2.5 days every week. I love it because I finally get peace and quiet, but it sucks when I get bored and have no motivation to do anything. I never realized how hard it was to clean, do laundry, and cook until I moved out too! Parents are just so skilled I guess. Hahah

    • I find that having no motivation is the hardest part! I don’t know why but I’m much less motivated since I’ve been living on my own. And I honestly don’t know how my parents do all of this stuff! haha

  • Gosh I am not looking forward to moving out. My mom is my best friend so I know it will hard for me to go.

    • It’s so nice that you have such a great relationship with your mom! I personally adore my parents, but they can be a bit suffocating at times, so I was glad to move out and finally get my own space!

  • All great points haha. It’s only rough for a little while, then it gets easier.

    | diaryofasouthernmillennial.com

    • It’s honestly not that bad, haha. I really love having my own space and being independent!

  • Loling at all of this. Adulting is so hard!

  • I love this! I haven’t quite “left the coop” fully yet, but I have caught glimpses of these things while living at school with a roommate. I’m so glad to hear someone else is super organized/hates cleaning their room too – I thought I was just a crazy person!
    – katrina // Yours Truly, Katrina

    • Just living without your parents is so much different, roommate or not. And don’t worry, you’re not alone! haha

  • stephanieabills

    Truest statement I’ve ever heard “adulting is hard”

    I love this post. I hadn’t really understood what would happen when I move out on my own for the first time.

  • Amy

    Such a good read! I might actually be living on my own this fall and it’s exciting and terrifying at the same time!

    xoxo,

    Amy | Pastel N Pink

    • That’s so exciting! Don’t worry, it’s not as bad as it looks! 😉

  • I loved this, so many truths. Living on your own is one of the most terrifying yet liberating experiences you will ever know.

    La Belle Sirene

    • Agreed! It’s amazing, but at the same it’s terrifying, haha.

  • Yep! I liked living on my own in college, but it wasn’t permanent and it’s the same afterwards when you’re in your adult life. I still can’t wait to do it though! There are ups and downs to any living situation, but it’s the important “ups” that we should listen to, too 🙂

    • I totally agree! I’ve been through some ups and downs by living on my own, but in the end, it’s so liberating! It’s great to be independent.